Have you ever promised yourself about a certain habit, and then suddenly, after a few weeks of persuasion, you just lost interest? Well, you are not alone. So many “books” and “articles” and short courses which may going to cost you around $10 to $30, they sell you a promise.
Let me tell you one thing, the core of all those “books” who are trying to point us to the same thing, in one way or another. Which is, “be consistent.”
It is impossible to mimic someone else success. If someone selling you this idea “copy my idea, and be successful,” it is a bullsh**t. No, you can't do that. You are UNIQUE. You are YOU. This means your mileage always will vary!
Here are some of the extracts I was able to get out of those books and articles to be consistent for any habit that you want to build:
If you are a student or used to be, or employee somewhere or used to be, whatever was your situation, I am dead sure you had a routine — Why? Why you had that routine? Put, and you made a commitment to yourself, you woke up at a certain time, you take a specific route, in your mind ran some calculation about “routes” which one will be faster, etc. It was because you were committed, and you prioritized that activity.
Why don’t you do the same for your habit or goal that you may have? What’s stopping you?
Now do this, where you want to end up? Visualize it, and keep visualizing it always every day. This will help you to be solidified in your commitment. This is how our brain works. We don’t just act. We get the visualization first and then act on it. For your goal, keep visualizing it every day, basically meditate on it — keep repeating that end goal every day for few mins, start with 1 min and then go for it up to 10 mins.
Create a system, adopt one of the tools already in your smartphone, put that damn reminder on your phone, and set up that visualizing reminder. And all the other reminders and follow it up. At work or school, we basically do exactly what our teachers or bosses ask us to do, and then if we need promotion, we go a few extra miles ahead. Apply a similar technique, “be your own employee.”